Let Them.....But Then What?

I read Let Them by Mel Robbins when I was in one of the deepest parts of this heartbreak.
At first, the message sounded freeing, simple even: Let them do whatever they want. Their behavior will tell you everything.

It felt empowering… in theory. But then I sat with it. And something started to crack.
Because this isn’t just about letting someone go to a party without you, or not texting back, or fading out of your life quietly.

This is about being betrayed by someone who said they loved you.
Someone who looked you in the eye, made promises, held your hand, met your family.
Someone you supported, emotionally, financially, spiritually.
Someone you loved so fully, you believed in their healing before they even saw it themselves.

And then they lied. Then they cheated. Then they blocked you without a word. So what does Let them mean in the face of that?

“Let him lie to you.”
“Let him sabotage everything you built together.”
“Let him leave you when your dad has cancer.”
“Let him vanish and never say I’m sorry.”

That’s the part no one talks about. Yes, letting them is ultimately about detachment. Yes, it’s about not chasing people who don’t choose you. But that process isn’t graceful. It’s brutal.

I had to ask myself: Let him… and then what?

What do I do with all the love that still lives in me?
What do I do with the days we were supposed to spend together, the plans, the memories, the ache? What do I do with the reality that I still hope, in some quiet, stubborn way, that he’ll come back a different man?

Mel is right.
Letting people show you who they are is the most honest data you’ll ever get. But she doesn’t tell you what to do when the truth breaks your heart. When the truth makes no sense because you know what you shared was real, even if they’re pretending it never happened. Letting go isn’t just an act of detachment.
It’s a long grief. It’s looking at yourself in the mirror every morning and saying: “Yes, I still love him. And no, I can’t keep bleeding for someone who won’t even bring a bandage.”

Let them walk away. But don’t let them convince you that you were the problem.
Don’t let them write the ending of your story. Don’t let them make you forget that you showed up with your whole heart. Because the truth is... I'm not the one who walked away from love.
He is.

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